The best conversation starters for a first date


First dates can be utterly terrifying. Deciding where to go, what to wear, what to order, whether there will be a spark – there is just so much to consider! Don’t let your conversation be dry and dull at least, stand out and make your date conversation fizzle with some of these more creative conversation starters.

What is something I wouldn’t guess about you?

This is a fun conversation starter as it can be as deep as the other person wants it to be. It can be something flirtatious or silly, and it allows you to find out something interesting that you might not otherwise have found out for a while.

If you could visit anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?

This question is perfect for starting a conversation about travel and your favorite places. Perhaps they could tell you how amazing the views in Thailand were and you could explain how incredible the food was in Italy, or you could discuss how much you both want to climb Mount Everest. This question is much better than just “so where have you traveled to?” as it opens up so many topics, rather than just a braggy list.

What is your biggest passion?

There is something so wonderful about hearing someone talk about something they really care about. It is a great way to gauge whether your passion levels are compatible. You may also find that you are passionate about similar things, but on the other hand, they may be passionate about fox hunting, and you might be passionate about animal welfare, in which case it might not be a match.

What’s your favorite animal?

When did we stop asking about favorite animals? Middle school? This is a fun throwback that is likely to make them laugh and feel a little nostalgic. You can gauge a lot about someone based on what their favorite animal is too!

What is your biggest pet peeve?

The answer to this question is going to be very telling! Do they have a short temper? Perhaps that is something that would be a deal breaker for you. Is their pet peeve something you do? Maybe it’s something you could change, or potentially something you wouldn’t want to. Or perhaps you can bond over finding the same thing annoying. Who doesn’t love a good moan?

What did you want to be when you were growing up?

Asking about someone’s childhood dreams can form an instant bond. This question can open up the floor to a whole load of fun childhood stories and conversations about your dream careers. It is also another interesting way of getting to talking about passions and interests and seeing what makes the other person tick.

Do you have a hidden talent?

Everyone loves to show off their secret skills, and this gives you the opportunity to showcase yours too! This is another way of finding out things about someone that you wouldn’t usually unearth on the first date.

So next time you’re on a date and are tempted to bring out the same old conversation starters, think of these and go for something far more creative that will leave them wanting more.